Could This “Simple” Strategy Make 2011 Your Best Year Ever?
Posted on 06. Jan, 2011 by Per Bristow in Performance, Singing
The economic situation is and has been tough for many. We live in challenging times. There is a lot of fear in the world. Yet, 2011 could very well be your best year ever. In fact, what if the following strategy would make success inevitable for 2011?
Whether success to you is to make more money, become more recognized as an artist and human being, attract greater love, or whatever, the key is really to become more valuable.
That’s probably no news to you, but the question is how do you become more valuable?
I firmly believe that it is far easier to become more valuable when we take the whole concept a step further and think about how we can make other people more valuable.
You become successful by making other people successful. You become more valuable by making other people more valuable. You become more powerful by empowering others.
But how does that work in the real world?
Beginner artists often make the mistake that they think people will or should show up to their concerts to “support them”. Many live with the belief that “if I only get a chance I’ll reward you later” or “help me now and I’ll reward you later”. Many grow up with a sense of entitlement. I think it is very hard to become a truly compelling artist, or gain much success in any endeavor, with this backwards mindset.
An artist becomes successful when the members of his/her audience have an emotional experience that is incredibly valuable for them. Emotional experiences are indeed valuable for us all. If you are part of a choir that creates a wonderful emotional experience for your audience, you are valuable to both the audience and to your choir. The more valuable the event is to the audience, the more often they want to come, and the more people will come.
If you want to earn more money, the same principles apply. If you can become more valuable to the people who pay you, you can also be paid more – whether that means becoming more valuable to one person or to a larger amount of people.
But, as I mentioned, what if we take it a step beyond “becoming more valuable”…
How does your customer, patient, client, student, audience, company, organization, community become more valuable to the people they interact with? If you can be part of that, then your value to them automatically increases and you can be rewarded tremendously – in the form of money, respect, opportunities, friendships, etc.
If a company gets the feeling that you will increase the value of the company you will be hired, you will be able to demand a higher salary or other benefits. If you audition and the producers feel that you will increase the value of the production, you will get the part.
I, as a coach, become more successful the more I can empower and make other people successful. My job is not only to “be valuable” for my clients or customers but to make my clients and customers more valuable to their audience or the people they interact with. My constant thought process is “what can I do to make them more successful”. It is a constant process of learning, growing and developing better and better ideas and strategies. But it is that thought process that feeds the ideas. That thought process makes getting up in the morning very exciting. And I believe that thought process coupled with acting on the thoughts makes success in some form rather inevitable.
What do you think?
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Amete Nasoqeqe
05. Oct, 2011
Love is a give and take word, grammatically it is a verb and a noun. So in order for me to be loved I need to give love. In singing if I need my audience to feel me I will sing with a genuine attitude of gratitude impacting them with a solution to their cicumstances.
William
27. Sep, 2011
Love has 2 parts: Love is a decision and love is giving your best for someone else’s good.
So, when you sing, if you do it for the benefit of the audience, you are thereby helping them. Giving love to the audience should always be your motivation.
C Stephens MR
22. Sep, 2011
As told you previously, I am 67, Welsh, a me mber of Cwmbran Male Choir, return to Wales next.month when I will make futher contact ,
Yours Faihfully C Stephens.
Norb
21. Sep, 2011
Your comments are powerfully intuitive.
Thanks
Janice
20. Sep, 2011
Excellent advice! What a better world this would be if we would learn to serve one another. “Give, and shall be given”. Whatever we give out will surely come back to us. If we give good things, we will receive good things. We never know when we will need someone to help us. Use whatever gift you have to empower others, and you will be greatly blessed
JURGITA
07. Sep, 2011
it is SOOO TRUE!!!!!!!!!!! I frankly have nothing to add to this.. so well said, Per!! briefly, and well!!
thank you for all that you do Per!!!!
lourdes
28. Aug, 2011
Hello Per! Although i am not able to get your course yet, I enjoy a lot reading your articles about how to improve not just in singing but in personal life. and I know you are right. This world would be a better world to live if everyone of us would put away selfishness and care about the one sitting beside.
There´s found a lot more benefit and satisfaction in giving than expected to only receive from others. We are fortunate to have the chance to help one another….Thanks a lot for sharing your thoughts with us who read your articles. And to all people comments. I really hope that pretty soon I will be taking on your lessons.
Shirley
26. Aug, 2011
I think this makes perfect sence,the only way people ever communicate to each other is by singing,which really comes from the bottom of our hearts,which is true others hear and feel so free to tell us how we sing and its good because it improves our voice which is our way to tell each other i like the way you sand and we try to make it better,and Per Bristow is really a God sent to us that is what i think of him,he is such a great man,to share his love with each and every one of us by teaching us free and sending and sharing his videos with us,i get up in the mornings,take his tip before i can go on RedKaraoke thanks Per Bristow and may God bless you …..
storm
20. Aug, 2011
i agree,and would like to just say thxs for teaching me and that i also have my own to strategy
1.some peopal think that you just sing but i belive you sing from your heart
2.i also hold my breath when i start singing to make the nerves go away
tip:you should NEVER look at the crowd just look at the sealling so you dont get nervous
Macel Wilson
13. Aug, 2011
Dear Per,
You are quite wise. Your very relevant question, "How do I become more valuable" is so important. Everything you say is so right. I would just like to paraphrase you by saying that it all starts by giving. LOVE GIVES. Love cannot help but give and asks nothing in return. What can I give you that is of value to me? I have experienced certain songs as being of greater value than gold. Songs that touch my deepest heart. To sing this song for another is like giving them a most precious gift. It all starts with me giving to another something that is precious to me. I share and by sharing what I love, I give another value and I increase my own value, my own ability to give, acquiring a greater capabity to love. Love you.
J Michael Horak
10. Aug, 2011
I agree totally with your point here but also wonder why it is not more universally understood and practiced.
In my almost four decades of teaching and managing, I have tried never to just give an answer to students but to help the them discover the answer, perhaps with other questions, some coaxing, and some assurance. The value of the answer then rested with the student, whose value (and confidence) increased. I could also count on the learning "sticking with" the learner for a longer period of time.
My reward? The privilege to help with a new question the next time …
Thank you for this great, clearly-written article!
JMH in Prague
Caron Potocnik
10. Aug, 2011
I think you have wonderful life insights, and for me this article confirms the life principle "As you give, so shall you receive" – not in the calculated, manipulative sense – but in terms of a fundamental life truth. Literally, if we try /work (at everything) to the best of our ability, give the most we can of ourselves for the good of others (animals/people/ the world at large) – then somehow a Universal Principle gives back to us in turn. It makes me think of a recent TV program which raised the life philosophy that it is considered a privilege to give to a beggar, as this act in turn enriches our own soul.
Glenda
09. Aug, 2011
Yes, so true. At least that's been my experience from the back pew to the front stage as a puppeteer, soloest and praise and worship leader all in one year.
I never did any of that in my life and by His grace God called me forth. He lead me to people I needed help from and Per is one of them who has helped me greatly. Thanks Per!
Martin Cutler
09. Aug, 2011
I agree with you . . . when Jesus gave his life on that cross, he did not ask, "How is this going to help me?" Rather, he asked, "How is this going to add value to mankind and to God?"
Richard
09. Aug, 2011
I agree with you, Per. I had the privilege of teaching a guitarist to sing in tune within the space of five minutes and of inspiring a young baritone to explore the connection between head voice and falsetto, something that we countertenors do all the time. The buzz was quite as great as any delivery of good individual performance.
DavidL
09. Aug, 2011
Per, You're one of life's jewels and you practise what you preach. I've so enjoyed talking to you during the webinars and you've certainly boosted my confidence to sing. This means that your value has, in turn, been enhanced!
I just hope that I'll get to buy you a beer one day if and when I next visit LA
Best wishes from Old Blighty
DJL
Ramune
09. Aug, 2011
Per, Adding to your insights… people want to be inspired… they want to know that they are supporting someone they can be inspired by, and that they can believe in. Today's pop culture is somewhat lacking in role models… thinking back to past, artists like Neal Young, Joan Baez, Bob Dylan, Lou Reed, etc etc- many of these people stood for something more than their music.
Amy
09. Aug, 2011
I enjoyed this article, as I believe that working together with one another, instead of competing against one another truly holds more fulfillment and yield greater results.
I recently took a class called “Making A Difference” to which the teacher engaged in 'adult transformative learning.' The classroom was set up in a circle (demonstrating equality of all in the room). She did not lecture us or take a position that she knew everything or was always right. She stated that she learned from us as much as we were learning from her. In every class, no matter what topic we were learning about, we engaged with one another through sharing stories and our personal experiences & thoughts. We were essentially putting greater value on ourselves and on one another and were not so much focused on the “right answers” found in traditional schoolbooks and materials.
It was a truly amazing learning and life experience.
Barry Lok
08. Aug, 2011
Just finished lesson #1 and loved it very much.
And now this addtional LESSON, I know I have found the right teacher and so glad I bought something I have been waiting for a long time.
Going to start lesson #2 now and can't wait to see what else will come up. Thanks so much Per
erlo
19. Jul, 2011
i totally agree with you..people helping people succeed..i once trained on vocal and stage performance back home(Philippines).it helps me a lot in terms of confidence.but my training wasn't enough.i've sung on entertainment stage in malls few times.now i'm here in Canada,hoping to improve my talent gradually..my friends love to hear my voice.hope to get some singing tips from you.