Comments on: How To Motivate Yourself (and why I lost an Ipod) http://www.perbristow.com/89/how-to-motivate-yourself-and-why-i-lost-an-ipod/ Tips, Advice, News on Voice, Communication & Performance Sat, 04 Sep 2010 12:50:53 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8 hourly 1 By: Hilary http://www.perbristow.com/89/how-to-motivate-yourself-and-why-i-lost-an-ipod/comment-page-1/#comment-12241 Hilary Fri, 06 Aug 2010 10:09:06 +0000 http://www.perbristow.com/how-to-motivate-yourself-and-why-i-lost-an-ipod.htm#comment-12241 What motivates me is to get inside what it feels like to achieve/receive the outcome I want - to really connect with the feelings of elation, gratitude, inspiration, awe etc that I feel when something is 'right'.  It is sometimes hard to give ourselves permission to 'own' those feelings and that is what holds us back from allowing our desires and hopes to be fulfilled. It is great that you added to your son's drive to beat his pb because you were telling him you WANTED him to feel great, that he deserves to have those feelings about himself. Awesome!  What motivates me is to get inside what it feels like to achieve/receive the outcome I want – to really connect with the feelings of elation, gratitude, inspiration, awe etc that I feel when something is 'right'.  It is sometimes hard to give ourselves permission to 'own' those feelings and that is what holds us back from allowing our desires and hopes to be fulfilled. It is great that you added to your son's drive to beat his pb because you were telling him you WANTED him to feel great, that he deserves to have those feelings about himself. Awesome! 

]]> By: MaxxNY http://www.perbristow.com/89/how-to-motivate-yourself-and-why-i-lost-an-ipod/comment-page-1/#comment-4007 MaxxNY Mon, 09 Feb 2009 05:15:22 +0000 http://www.perbristow.com/how-to-motivate-yourself-and-why-i-lost-an-ipod.htm#comment-4007 What motivates me ? Women. :-) What motivates me ? Women. :-)

]]> By: Bennie http://www.perbristow.com/89/how-to-motivate-yourself-and-why-i-lost-an-ipod/comment-page-1/#comment-3852 Bennie Wed, 31 Dec 2008 14:53:55 +0000 http://www.perbristow.com/how-to-motivate-yourself-and-why-i-lost-an-ipod.htm#comment-3852 Hi Per, Interesting story. I don't think the external reward, was the trigger to break his personal record. He must have had a strong believe that he could do it. I guess the ipod reward was just an extra drive to put himself to the test. Hi Per,

Interesting story. I don’t think the external reward, was the trigger to break his personal record. He must have had a strong believe that he could do it. I guess the ipod reward was just an extra drive to put himself to the test.

]]> By: Renato BDR http://www.perbristow.com/89/how-to-motivate-yourself-and-why-i-lost-an-ipod/comment-page-1/#comment-3694 Renato BDR Sat, 06 Dec 2008 02:18:24 +0000 http://www.perbristow.com/how-to-motivate-yourself-and-why-i-lost-an-ipod.htm#comment-3694 Hi Per B Thanx for your prodding to respond in follow-up.Having read how motivation went on to bribery seems to deflect the core or heart of the question.I feel motivation is about what fuel is in your tank, how you use it,and what good it does at large, something like cause and effect. The bribery question is but a fraction of the motivation question,and maybe the reason for the end of idea exchanges? Renato BDR Hi Per B
Thanx for your prodding to respond in follow-up.Having read how motivation went on to bribery seems to deflect the core or heart of the question.I feel motivation is about what fuel is in your tank, how you use it,and what good it does at large, something like cause and effect.
The bribery question is but a fraction of the motivation question,and maybe the reason for the end of idea exchanges? Renato BDR

]]> By: Caia http://www.perbristow.com/89/how-to-motivate-yourself-and-why-i-lost-an-ipod/comment-page-1/#comment-3691 Caia Fri, 05 Dec 2008 00:22:07 +0000 http://www.perbristow.com/how-to-motivate-yourself-and-why-i-lost-an-ipod.htm#comment-3691 While this story made me laugh, it also made me kind of sad. I have mixed feelings about bribing kids! Granted, I'm not a parent, so I'm no expert - but I was a kid... My mother was too high-minded to reward grades with material things, which I appreciated even while my friends got things for their report cards. But my father was ok with offering to buy me clothes if I lost weight (I was not and am not fat). So I have negative associations with that. Be careful to differentiate between what you want and what your child wants - at least know which you are supporting and why. I am a huge procrastinator. I do not sing daily as I wish I did - so I join as many choruses and groups as I can so that at least I am singing more often. Getting others to help me do the things I wish I were doing, I guess. I don't think benefit is always a motivator - I am also unemployed just now, and you would think that would be a powerful motivator to get me out there doing the right things to find work... not so. It's excruciatingly difficult. See you all when I have work again and can afford to sign back up for this site. While this story made me laugh, it also made me kind of sad. I have mixed feelings about bribing kids! Granted, I’m not a parent, so I’m no expert – but I was a kid… My mother was too high-minded to reward grades with material things, which I appreciated even while my friends got things for their report cards. But my father was ok with offering to buy me clothes if I lost weight (I was not and am not fat). So I have negative associations with that. Be careful to differentiate between what you want and what your child wants – at least know which you are supporting and why.
I am a huge procrastinator. I do not sing daily as I wish I did – so I join as many choruses and groups as I can so that at least I am singing more often. Getting others to help me do the things I wish I were doing, I guess.
I don’t think benefit is always a motivator – I am also unemployed just now, and you would think that would be a powerful motivator to get me out there doing the right things to find work… not so. It’s excruciatingly difficult. See you all when I have work again and can afford to sign back up for this site.

]]> By: Hilary L http://www.perbristow.com/89/how-to-motivate-yourself-and-why-i-lost-an-ipod/comment-page-1/#comment-3682 Hilary L Thu, 04 Dec 2008 00:32:41 +0000 http://www.perbristow.com/how-to-motivate-yourself-and-why-i-lost-an-ipod.htm#comment-3682 I think people are afraid of going all out when there is no certainty of success. If you know that when you drive 5 hours, you will then see your favorite band perform, you will do the work. It's pretty sure to happen. But, I think people are not sure of the result so they waiver - "is it worth it". But the cool thing about Per's son in that story is he probably was so in the moment...the excitement, the routine of training, having his dad there to see him do this thing, the challenge of really doing something amazing, that he focused completely right there and then. He got himself in the ZONE. I think half the battle to get motivated is to set yourself up for success. Create the ZONE. When I was a serious athlete, it was easy. Train every day with a team and a coach, get excited, set goals and RACE. As an adult, and as an artist is harder to create that excitement and stability zone...but I think it is the key. Create the environment for your own success...and go all out. I think people are afraid of going all out when there is no certainty of success. If you know that when you drive 5 hours, you will then see your favorite band perform, you will do the work. It’s pretty sure to happen.
But, I think people are not sure of the result so they waiver – “is it worth it”. But the cool thing about Per’s son in that story is he probably was so in the moment…the excitement, the routine of training, having his dad there to see him do this thing, the challenge of really doing something amazing, that he focused completely right there and then. He got himself in the ZONE.
I think half the battle to get motivated is to
set yourself up for success. Create the ZONE.
When I was a serious athlete, it was easy. Train every day with a team and a coach, get excited, set goals and RACE. As an adult, and as an artist is harder to create that excitement and stability zone…but I think it is the key. Create the environment for your own success…and go all out.

]]> By: Benita http://www.perbristow.com/89/how-to-motivate-yourself-and-why-i-lost-an-ipod/comment-page-1/#comment-3680 Benita Wed, 03 Dec 2008 19:30:06 +0000 http://www.perbristow.com/how-to-motivate-yourself-and-why-i-lost-an-ipod.htm#comment-3680 Great blog post.. I'm a motivation topic-freak! So couldn't help not to comment here, especially I also have a pre-teen, 12-yr old daughter; who badly wanted to have an IPOD, begged me almost every single day to get it.. and to think that they're on the pricy range. Being a single Mom sort of made this a finances issue for me. I'd rather spend that on food. But I'm so glad I finally got her an IPOD, as I walked into the Electronics store, just paid for it with my eyes closed. (LOL)...but it totally paid of. Why? I've negotiated with her that since this is not a necessity to have during that time at least; I made a condition that unless I see her grades get better; an IPOD won't surface..Interestingly enough, the following semester; she showed me her report card and Wallaah! pretty much straight A's except for a B in Math. and she was just wishing for an IPOD at that time to land on her hands...so now that she got it, it's helping her enjoy doing her homework, not that she had the Ipod on her ears while she's doing her assignmenets... It's another motivating factor for me to let her use it as a reward, after she's done with her studies...So it works both ways, internally and externally. We all have to be motivated at some point in our lives... By the way, like you Per, I'm also a Voice and Performace Coach and when my daughter asked for the IPOD, although my external voice says NO, doesn't mean I didn't want to get it for her...My inner voice agreed that this new technology will actually help her and I'm all for it.. Not only in terms of music pieces, but I started downloading motivational topics and personal development related audios for teens, that will certainly make her successful in life. Thank You Per. Benita, Voiceologist(TM) Voice Mastery Coach Great blog post.. I’m a motivation topic-freak! So couldn’t help not to comment here, especially I also have a pre-teen, 12-yr old daughter; who badly wanted to have an IPOD, begged me almost every single day to get it.. and to think that they’re on the pricy range. Being a single Mom sort of made this a finances issue for me. I’d rather spend that on food. But I’m so glad I finally got her an IPOD, as I walked into the Electronics store, just paid for it with my eyes closed. (LOL)…but it totally paid of. Why? I’ve negotiated with her that since this is not a necessity to have during that time at least; I made a condition that unless I see her grades get better; an IPOD won’t surface..Interestingly enough, the following semester; she showed me her report card and Wallaah! pretty much straight A’s except for a B in Math. and she was just wishing for an IPOD at that time to land on her hands…so now that she got it, it’s helping her enjoy doing her homework, not that she had the Ipod on her ears while she’s doing her assignmenets… It’s another motivating factor for me to let her use it as a reward, after she’s done with her studies…So it works both ways, internally and externally. We all have to be motivated at some point in our lives… By the way, like you Per, I’m also a Voice and Performace Coach and when my daughter asked for the IPOD, although my external voice says NO, doesn’t mean I didn’t want to get it for her…My inner voice agreed that this new technology will actually help her and I’m all for it.. Not only in terms of music pieces, but I started downloading motivational topics and personal development related audios for teens, that will certainly make her successful in life. Thank You Per.

Benita, Voiceologist(TM)
Voice Mastery Coach

]]> By: alex http://www.perbristow.com/89/how-to-motivate-yourself-and-why-i-lost-an-ipod/comment-page-1/#comment-3673 alex Tue, 02 Dec 2008 10:57:29 +0000 http://www.perbristow.com/how-to-motivate-yourself-and-why-i-lost-an-ipod.htm#comment-3673 ooops i forgot to add his moivation was to do his best, and that is what he did. ooops i forgot to add his moivation was to do his best, and that is what he did.

]]> By: alex http://www.perbristow.com/89/how-to-motivate-yourself-and-why-i-lost-an-ipod/comment-page-1/#comment-3672 alex Tue, 02 Dec 2008 10:56:31 +0000 http://www.perbristow.com/how-to-motivate-yourself-and-why-i-lost-an-ipod.htm#comment-3672 You are right. motivation has very little to do with external rewards. I did an exam not laong ago, and while my results were very good, and i got al the bribes that i was promised, I didn't want any of it becasue I knew I hadn't done my best. Your son didn't break his record becasue of what you said. The ipod was a bonus. He did it becasue he felt he could and wanted to prove it. and if he didn't make it he would ahve been very dissapointed becasue he would ahve felt he woldn't have not not as well as he should, but as well as he could. People can sense their own limitations, and but if we fail to meet our own ideas of what is possible to acheive. Your son's motivation was monst likely (and I don't know exactly ebcasue I knly know my own experience) probably the idea that he knew he could do it so he was determined to do it. Not to show off, but to rise to the level he knew he could acheive and to prove to minself that he could do what he thought he could. You are right. motivation has very little to do with external rewards. I did an exam not laong ago, and while my results were very good, and i got al the bribes that i was promised, I didn’t want any of it becasue I knew I hadn’t done my best. Your son didn’t break his record becasue of what you said. The ipod was a bonus. He did it becasue he felt he could and wanted to prove it. and if he didn’t make it he would ahve been very dissapointed becasue he would ahve felt he woldn’t have not not as well as he should, but as well as he could. People can sense their own limitations, and but if we fail to meet our own ideas of what is possible to acheive. Your son’s motivation was monst likely (and I don’t know exactly ebcasue I knly know my own experience) probably the idea that he knew he could do it so he was determined to do it. Not to show off, but to rise to the level he knew he could acheive and to prove to minself that he could do what he thought he could.

]]> By: jan http://www.perbristow.com/89/how-to-motivate-yourself-and-why-i-lost-an-ipod/comment-page-1/#comment-3658 jan Thu, 27 Nov 2008 22:50:56 +0000 http://www.perbristow.com/how-to-motivate-yourself-and-why-i-lost-an-ipod.htm#comment-3658 Hm....think I'm learning something here....I need to bribe my kids more...lol Hm….think I’m learning something here….I need to bribe my kids more…lol

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