Singing and Living Optimally in 2012

BY Per Bristow

Alright, 2012 is in full swing and in my opinion now is the perfect time - now that the New Year resolutions nonsense has worn off – to really get going on creating a phenomenal year.

What?! Did I just call New Year’s resolutions “nonsense”?!

In all honesty, I have never met any person whom I would consider a “high achiever” who engages in New Year resolutions. Why is that? Because the problem with New Year resolutions is that they tend to be misguided admonishments and/or promises to ourselves. Often we hear “New Year resolutions” be statements such as “I am going to stop eating candy”, “I am going to quit smoking”, or the all-time-favorite “I am going to lose weight!”.

One of the problems with these vague statements is that they are not actionable. You cannot strive towards stopping or losing something. There is no motion towards “stopping”.

It’s like telling someone “stop singing off key!”. Not very helpful advice is it?

An even bigger problem is that big “promises” set yourself up to fail. Not surprisingly, New Year’s resolutions in the form of promises are, according to statistics, broken within 30 days.

One of my fundamental philosophies of life is to be able to give yourself permission to fail. You who engaged in my singing training know how powerful this concept is in order to develop greater awareness of your body, to effectively access muscles on a deeper level than before, and to develop a mindset for peak performance. Giving yourself permission to fail doesn’t mean that you want to fail. Quite the contrary. People who embrace the mindset of allowing themselves to fail are the very people who are not afraid of failing. When we are able to give permission for “mistakes” and “failures”, then and ONLY then will you also be able to give permission for magic. It is then that you are able to do what most people consider impossible.

This is the person who is willing to discover something new and therefore becomes creative and productive. This is the person who engages in learning and growing and preparing for the difficult. This is the person who has no feeling of giving up just because of setbacks. This is the person who sees setbacks as the juice that propels oneself to learn and become even better.

This is also the person who lives with a high level of responsibility, and who doesn’t need to blame circumstances or other people. This is the person who lives with an inner passion to orchestrate fulfillment in his/her life and live fulfilled whatever the “results” may be in the moment. This is the person who is able to be resourceful and find strength when things aren’t going well. This is the person who can come back from defeat. Yes, this is indeed the person who can perform at his/her peak when it really matters.

This is also the person who lives with a high level of responsibility, and who doesn’t need to blame circumstances or other people. This is the person who lives with an inner passion to orchestrate fulfillment in his/her life and live fulfilled whatever the “results” may be in the moment. This is the person who is able to be resourceful and find strength when things aren’t going well. This is the person who can come back from defeat. Yes, this is indeed the person who can perform at his/her peak when it really matters.

I am all for setting measurable goals. Goals that are measurable are fun and rewarding and give us something to strive for. But it is the non-measurable that really makes the difference. None of these peak performance qualities are measurable.

However, don’t get me wrong, I certainly do love the New Year. I love the opportunity to pause and reflect on the year that has been, and recharge the batteries for the year ahead and focus - re-focus sometimes - on what life is all about. Here, a month later, it is so easy to just get caught up in “being busy” again, isn’t it? I fall into that trap also. I believe now, that the excitement of the New Year has worn off, is a great opportunity to focus on what is important in life.

Singing is of course a big part of your and all my blog reader’s lives. That is one of those activities that we cannot measure. But maybe that is exactly why it is such an important activity for us all.

One of the most rewarding activities for me is to learn and grow and challenge myself. And that can’t happen if I don’t give myself permission to “fail”.

How do you feel about “failure”? What are some of those non-measurable qualities that you are working on improving this year? What makes life exciting and rewarding for you?

Alright, 2012 is in full swing and in my opinion now is the perfect time – now that the New Year resolutions nonsense has worn off – to really get going on creating a phenomenal year.

What?! Did I just call New Year’s resolutions “nonsense”?!

In all honesty, I have never met any person whom I would consider a “high achiever” who engages in New Year resolutions. Why is that? Because the problem with New Year resolutions is that they tend to be misguided admonishments and/or promises to ourselves. Often we hear “New Year resolutions” be statements such as “I am going to stop eating candy”, “I am going to quit smoking”, or the all-time-favorite “I am going to lose weight!”.

One of the problems with these vague statements is that they are not actionable. You cannot strive towards stopping or losing something. There is no motion towards “stopping”.

It’s like telling someone “stop singing off key!”. Not very helpful advice is it?

An even bigger problem is that big “promises” set yourself up to fail. Not surprisingly, New Year’s resolutions in the form of promises are, according to statistics, broken within 30 days.

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