How To Excel In Singing and Life

Today I’d like to address a very important difference between people who excel at something and those who don’t.

In fact, if we want to excel as singer/performers (or in any field), I think it is crucial that we understand and embrace this.

It was an email I received that inspired me to write this article. So let me first address the issue in the email and then how it can help you.

The email was from a woman who had watched one of the interview videos that are posted at

She wrote that she was disappointed because the beginner singer that I interviewed only talked about his experience – he never sang.

She felt cheated. “The proof is in the pudding “ she said and continued with: “let me hear him sing so I can judge whether or not the program is any good.”

I’ve actually received a couple of similar emails in the past so it deserves a response, and it serves as a great example of today’s subject.

Now, as you also know, numerous professional singers have trained with my program and I also interview some pros at

So here’s an important question: Why don’t I ask a professional singer to sing in the video interview?

Really ponder it….

Why would, and should, a professional singer say no to such a suggestion?

Do you know the answer?

Because a professional singer would never be so foolish to suddenly just sing on the spot, unprepared, without accompaniment, over a web camera that produces horrendous sound quality, which then will be broadcast on the internet on someone else’s website to hundreds of thousands of people.

To a professional it would be a ludicrous suggestion.

A professional singer releases his/her art to the world when it is ready to be released.

Before they perform, they train, they practice, they rehearse and rehearse some more. They record on the best equipment they can get. If they perform live, whether on stage, TV, radio or the Internet, they make sure they are given the opportunity to put their best foot forward. That is how a professional operates.

So why on earth would I be so insensitive to put a beginner on the spot and suggest that he sings under such miserable circumstances – which inevitably would make him sound far worse than he is?

Of course I wouldn’t do that, and how we personally like someone’s style of singing is of course irrelevant anyway.  The point of the interviews is to understand a person’s experience.

Now the real reason the email writer demanded the person to sing, is not because she was interested in being entertained.  She could go to the professional artist’s websites for that. (Obviously, a beginner doesn’t want to have their singing on a website). No, the email writer simply wanted an opportunity to judge.

(The common tendency to judge and be judgmental is on of the biggest self-defeating tendencies among humans, and is huge subject that we’ll address in greater depth some other time)

However, the point of today’s article is to understand the value of preparation.

People who excel prepare. They practice and rehearse and always strive to improve.  They release their art and creations to the public when it is ready.

Let me say it one more time:

People who excel prepare.

There are enormous amounts of people who have had bad experiences singing and therefore believe they can’t sing. They sang in public once and it didn’t go well, so now they don’t want to perform again.

It is beginners who more than others tend to live with the false beliefs of talent versus non-talent.

But the real reason for the bad experience was really lack of preparation. They didn’t have the training to understand that the song was in the wrong key, or know what to do to make the voice sound good.

They had no training and no real preparation.


…to put it in a harshly in a perspective of losers versus winners…

Losers just wing it.  Winners train and prepare.

Dare I ask which one you are?


(feel free to post your thoughts below)